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It feels like my life is over now that MJ is gone

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Question - (10 July 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 July 2009)
A female Ireland age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hey,My name is Kate,

And well,Ever since Michael Jackson Died..ive been really down!

I was such a huge fan, and grew up listening to his music!..

He was such an inspiration to me!..

And i thought he was gorgeoues back the 70s and early 80s!:)

Im really thankful though that i got to witness his talent!

I cant stop thinking about him!..

I was supposed to go to 1 of his concerts in London!

And 2 days before he died myself and my friends were talking sbout him(i knw weird ryt)

I jus cant get over it!..I knw im not the only 1 who feels like this!..I cry every night because of it!..

His music doesnt feel the same as he is dead! =[!..

There hasnt been a day since i havent listened to him!..

My life is empty with out him! =[!..

My mom told me when i was small that she couldnt get me away from the telly when he was on! Haha! =]

Im just going to miss him!..He meant the world to me!..

To be Honest it feels like My life is over! =[=[=[!!..

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A female reader, Starlights United Kingdom +, writes (11 July 2009):

Starlights agony auntmy dear your perfectly normal.

im 28 years old, married, but when MJ died i cried too! i felt like that dorky 10 yr old kid who noone liked and all my childhood memories came flooding back.

a friend at work aged 50 yrs old cried and alot of my friends my own age cried when they heard the news.

even tho we carry on with life and i go to work as normal i still miss him being alive, he was a big part of my troubled childhood.

your not crazy to love him so much, just becoz u didnt know him, doesnt mean u didnt connect to him on a spiritual level.

what alot of people here fail to realise is, (just as MJ used to sing, and jesus and all the prophets taught ) is that all humans beings are connected. we are all one.

MJ meant a heck of alot to people,

especially for me, he was my role model growing up,

he showed me that being brown doesnt mean im less talented or less beautiful, he showed me that a bad childhood doesnt break me, he showed me what hard work was, he showed me how to give my time & help others by charity (hence the ONLY reason why i am here),

& how to be confident in life even when people laugh in your face or dont understand.

the best thing u can do my dear is to let yourself grieve,

but use his death as an inspiration for u to do the best u can for other people, (just as he did for others thru his music and charity work)

if u feel depressed, surround urself with friends who liked his music too, talk to them, and listen to his music daily (this is what i do ! ) & dont listen to the negativity what people say about him, becoz if he was a bad guy he wouldnt have gave so much of his money & time over to charity work.

his music always lives on in history and your blessed by god to have been touched by it. but u have to move on and see it as a positive experience. he like i would always want to see you happy.

regardless what other people say, wat ur feeling is legitamate, he meant alot for u,

and rememeber he had such a hard lifetime here on earth least he is in a better place where he is looked after.

feel free to mail me anytime ! lots of love xxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Well,Thnks for all ur reponses!

And yes i do knw i ddint know him at all!..

But that doesnt mean u can go through abuse at me!

God,im only 15!,Ive liked him since i was 3,

And i never ever got a chance to see him in person!

But thanks again for your advice ill take it in to account!

=]xxxxxx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009):

As much as I'm not a huge fan of his, I do understand where you're coming from. I am a huge Nirvana fan and was when Kurt died. I was your age when that happened.

The answers that people have given you here about him not being part of your family etc. don't take into account how powerful music can be in someone's life. Music has helped me get through the worst times in my life and while there is no physical connection with the person who made that music the emotional connection can be nearly as strong as that of a family member, so the death of which can have just as profound an effect.

As strange as this may sound, to me music is my religion, it is my source of spiritual comfort and enlightenment, it is a friend to me that never lets me down and it has the power to lift my spirits in my darkest moments and raise them higher when I'm feeling good.

The worst thing about MJ's death for you is that you will never get to see him perform or hear a new song from him. The one comfort you can take from all of this is that you will always have his music, that can never be erased and there are tonnes of concerts interviews that you haven't yet seen, so seeking them out and watching them can be like watching something new.

It gets easier, it will take a bit of time but you'll come to terms with his death. Remember, there is nothing stupid about how you feel (don't let anyone convince you otherwise), they are natural emotions when you're dealing with loss, just make sure to allow yourself the space and time to grieve.

Remember someone like MJ is never really dead unlike a family member you have more than just memories to remember him by.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009):

im not being funny, but you never knew him in person, he wasnt apart of your family or friendship life so get over it! for those people who were close to MJ such as his friends his family and even people who worked with him, they have every right to be upset and cry but for someone who doesnt know him in person, its pathetic getting upset over him!

i know this is not wat you want to hear but ITS THE TRUTH!

have fun

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A female reader, cadet smiley United States +, writes (10 July 2009):

i totally understnd where youre coming from !!!! im micheal jacksons cousin and since the funeral we have been tyring to move on but we know that when we get to be by ourselves we want to cry to not in front of paris , prince and blanket , we try to make it for them so they can not go to that stage of remembering that micheals died !!!! i cry when hear about him i cry when i hear his music, i cry when when people talk about him its hard rite now !!! ife doesn't end it goes on try to do what we do ...remember that he is in good place and doing better withthe fact that hes not going through what he went through anymore!!!!!!

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