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writes:This guy and I briefly dated over the summer. We fell really hard for each other and he told me he loved me very quickly. He had to move out of the state after a few weeks but told me he still wanted a relationship because he loved me. At first, the long distance thing worked and he even said that he was planning on coming to see me soon. Then all of a sudden, that day same day, he completely ignored me and deleted me from everything. He didnt even answer his phone so I wrote him an angry message. He said that he couldnt handle the distance and simply said goodbye. Now, a few months later, he messages me and apologizes saying that he didnt know what to do and still feels really bad about it. I acted like I didn't care and that it didnt bother me, even though I am still very much in love with him. I have a feeling he misses me but I was so cold that he didn't say anything. He asked if I hated him, I said I don't but that he acted like a douchebag. He apologized again and said "Alright, I'll leave you alone now" and the conversation ended like we would never see each other again. Now I am regretting that I never told him how I feel. I want to write him again and say what I've been feeling the past six months but I also dont want to lose face. What should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 December 2011):
I think you'd be mad to go back to this guy in any way whatsoever. Whatever he said when he apologized, he still hurt you badly and that was a huge let down on his part. That showed his true character. The apology might have meant something - maybe he does miss you, maybe he was trying his luck.
But, in the end, he had a chance and he let you down very, very badly. Too many people allow themselves to be treated badly again and again. Please don't become one of them.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 December 2011):
I think you'd be mad to go back to this guy in any way whatsoever. Whatever he said when he apologized, he still hurt you badly and that was a huge let down on his part. That showed his true character. The apology might have meant something - maybe he does miss you, maybe he was trying his luck.
But, in the end, he had a chance and he let you down very, very badly. Too many people allow themselves to be treated badly again and again. Please don't become one of them.
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