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41-50,
*9agegap
writes:what should i do?background- together for 7months- relationship been great. we met each other's family, hang out together all the time- i love him and i think he does tooproblem- he's relocating to another country and i don't know if i should follow him. He did not ask me to follow him just said it would be great when i asked if I should. He did not ask me to move in with him as well- I want to settle down in the next 3-4 years...and he said he's not ready yet- I found out that he had at least 2 ex-gfs where the relationship died as he could not commit to them (he's in his 30s)other complications- found out that he contacted his ex-gf like how are you and hope to see you soon.....what do guys think when they say this kind of things to their ex-es?need your advice- what should I do? should I relocate to a place partially cuz of a guy whom might never marry me and whom I still do not trust 100%? Just because we are great together and we really enjoy each other's company? I feel that he's just happy with the way things are now, and I have lots more to consider about e.g. relocating for him and whether love is enough to make up for the fact that he might never give me what I want..a wedding, a marriage.....
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reader, joannaleigh +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Wow, this is SOOOOOO easy : NO!!!!!! And if you try I shall be forced to track you down and flog you mercilessly with a wet noodle. Seriously, unless you really hate yourself and desire a miserable life, don't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): You are putting way more effort into this relationship than he is. That is so pointless. What you need to do is back off and quit settling for this. Its not what you want, according to what you wrote, so why would you settle for that??
Just go on with your life and meet a cool guy who is ready for the things your ready for. In the meantime stop contacting this guy, avoid his calls and force yourself to move on. He couldn't have been anymore blunt with you so quit wasting your time with him.
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