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Should I pretend it doesn't matter that she's not consistent in her feelings for me?.

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Question - (29 December 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 15 January 2011)
A male Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have been kind of attached to this girl for a while and we text and talk all day. We have known each other about 5 years. she is very caring and does think a lot about me.

But her actions have terribly confused me.

She makes me feel that i am the world for her, and it hurts her when i do something wrong. Makes me feel she wants closure. And the next moment she is all cool and acts like it doesn't bother her.

Most of the time time she keeps telling me about random sexy boys she met, and how they talked and stuff. It's kind of mixed signals.

But i dont see her as my girlfriend and just want to stay close as special buddies. We talk on phone at night, she seems so enthusiastic, goody goody, loving, caring and says i mean her a lot.

But when i call her back after i come back from a break, she doesn't answer nor reply to texts and says she had fallen asleep last night and she didn't realise it, and that she is sorry.

It happened a few times and i get annoyed as she was so enthusiastic just a minute ago.

Sometimes i feel she is all fake. But i pretend it's all cool with me, and it doesn't matter to me what she does to me.

It really annoys me when she takes me for granted sometimes, and thinks i can be easily fooled, and that she can get away with whatever she does or her irresponsible behaviour. But she is really nice to me as a whole. Maybe she is using me to kill her time, it doesn't matter as long as i am enjoying her company.

I dont want to react to it, and seem needy, as she will do the same thing after a few days. Should i be cool with it and pretend it doesnt bother to me.. please advice ...thanks

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A male reader, EPocket Palestinian Territory - Occupied +, writes (15 January 2011):

EPocket agony aunt"Maybe she is using me to kill her time, it doesn't matter as long as i am enjoying her company."

are u enjoying her company ???!!!

wat exactly are u enjoying ?

thats one ..

wat do u expect out of this ? ur kids mother ? a girl to hang out with ? someone to talk to ?

make ur mind straight first.

just make up ur mind abt where YOU want this to end .

no one but u knows wat to do or how to dial with this cause u r the only one with TRUE feelings in this . none of us feels how u feel there.

if its the company u r lookin for .. just enjoy the time u r having with her and move on with ur life without gettin any demands on her ..

if its something else u r after ;) u better work on gettin it out of ur relationship .

again ..

give ur relationship with her a NAME and things will go straight ;)

good luck

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