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female
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36-40,
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writes:I posted once before about an attraction I have developed to my college T.A. To recap, I am 23 and he is 28. I am a senior and he is a Ph.D candidate. He is very shy, a little awkward, but has a very intelligent and interesting mind.Because of his position as somewhat of an authority figure (not the professor but the person responsible for grading my work) it is difficult to judge how to properly approach the situation.Today, I made the initiative to see him in his office to get a read if he was interested in me too. We weren't completely alone, it is a large office and there were two other people there. But, he didn't show any personal interest at all, didn't make chit-chat and the whole meeting took 10 minutes. My rouse for meeting him in his office to ask a few questions about the class material might have been transparent. In short, he was professional not at all personal, not the sort of interaction I hoped for. I figured if he was interested he would have made some attempt to use the situation to know me a little.I am wondering if I should just give up on the idea of him and I. I know that it was only the first private meeting but if he were interested wouldn't he have tried to make some small talk to get to know me a little? Or, because he is very shy, slightly awkward and not conventionally attractive, he avoided being personal b/c of fear??? What do you think?I guess he probably wouldn't suspect that I like him. Maybe b/c he thinks it is unethical b/c of his position, or because he thinks it would be an unlikely pairing. Should I meet with him in his office a few more times to give him more of a chance? Or will I look foolish? Should I just wait until the end of the semester and then spring it on him that I like him? What do I do? Help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2009):
He didn;t show any interest and he didnt do any chit chat. He's not interested. Let him go and find a guy who's really interested in you.
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reader, Paula4u +, writes (28 September 2009):
 Once a female voices her interest in a male he knows where he stands and if he so desires he would respond. He hasnot leave him be. Short and Sweet.
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