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writes:ive got a boyfried who ive been with nearly three years, we are going to be moving in together in a few weeks time although i have doubts. this is because ive just started a new job where i have met a really lovely guy i cant stop thinking about him but it makes me feel guilty about my boyfriend. the other problem is this other guy is 14 years older than me. i know he likes me back, im just confused about what would be the right thing to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): thankyou for allyour answers its been helpful.
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reader, Love2answer  +, writes (24 October 2010):
Do not move in with him of you have any feelings for someone else. I'm speaking from personal experience...this same thing led me to years of unhappiness and a marriage that was a huge mistake. I was still in love with my ex when I rebounded with my now husband and moved in with him after a few months. I didn't get over my ex for two more years even though we had no contact and I still wound up marrying my husband during this...then wishing I hadn't because then when I finally got over ny ex I found the love of my life...someone I met at a new job after I got married. Now I'm trapped and still dealing with it years later. So take care of your own issues before you take a step deeper in your commitmet to your boyfriend. If there is nothing between you and the other man I wouldn't tell him (don't cheat...it only makes everything worse) but maybe just say you aren't sure you're ready to move in together after all. If he loves you and is worth being with in the long run he'll understand and will be patient.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 If you have doubts do not move in with your boyfriend, it would be totally unfair for you to move in and THEN decide you had made a mistake. Just tell him you are unsure, and want to wait a few more months, because it is a big step!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Move in with your boyfriend, that way you guys will have a closer relationship.. This other guy is 14 years older than you, which is quite an age gap. Plus you work with him so if you were to get involved with him and things turned sour you will still have to face him 5 days a week for 8 hours. Awkward. I think you might be getting a little nervous, taking this big step in your relationship.
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