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writes:My boyfriend has been through a divorce about 2 1/2 years ago. His ex-wife cheated on him, and decided to leave him. It was really hard for him to go through this. To the point he, along with the rest of his family and friends, believe he will be single forever. We started going out a year ago, and we're serious about each other. He wanted me to live with him soon. However, he's not ready about the topic of marriage yet.I was raised from a traditional family. I was taught you only live with your husband. He asked me yesterday when I'll be ready to move in with him. I didn't know how to respond. I really want to live with him, but I don't know if I'll regret living with him without getting married. What should I do? I don't want to force him to do anything. Should I move in with him and wait until he's ready to marry me? Will he ever ask me?
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reader, odi  +, writes (11 January 2010):
HiHow did this end? I am in exactly the same situation now and at a loss for what to do. A little experienced insight would be wonderful! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I would wait until he is ready for marriage, it is common that a man feels no need to marry if he's already getting everything without having to fully commit!
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 This one is pretty easy from the outside looking in. If he is not willing to compromise his position on marriage why should you be willing to compromise your feeling on "shacking" with someone. Its hard for you because you care for him but I don't think living with him will change his mind, more than likely make it worse. Why buy the cow if your drinking the milk for free??? Good Luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 October 2006):
 Tell him you need more time. I think you need to be totally comfortable with the idea first. He'll understand. Good luck.
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