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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Well my ex and I just recently broken up and I've decided that I need to go NC. She's already in a new relationship with somebody else and it's only been a week. Hearing this news has been very tough. But I realize that going NC is the best solution for me right now. I think disappearing for at least a few months would be wise for me right now. The problem is that I don't want to just drop off the face of the planet and be gone so abruptly. Would it be wise to tell her in a quick text that I need time to myself and wish her and her new boyfriend the best and then just drop off like that? I still care about her and I don't feel right to not tell her that I need to do this
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 I agree, your plans are none of her business anymore. If she tries challenging you further down the line then tell her that it was nothing to do with her the moment she stamped all over you by getting with another guy! She hasn't got a leg to stand on mate, so take some time out, and start moving on and meeting new people.
All the best :)
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reader, Tine +, writes (29 November 2010):
 i totally agree with Caring Guy, maybe you think that there is a chance she will tell you not to go? If she has moved on, then i wouldn't even wish her luck and just get on with my own life.
If you feel the need to disappear then do so, only you know what is best for yourself, to clear your head and do whatever you need to do. She is not a part of life your life right now, so i would just go and not give her one thought.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 November 2010):
It's not worth telling her. What are you looking for by doing it? She's already got another boyfriend already, so it's clear she's moved on. You just carry on and get away from her. Her knowing where you are is no longer any of her business.
Go away, take time to get over and come back when you're ready But she really doesn't need to know, since it's cleat she's moved on. That would only make you look desperate or something.
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