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writes:I suffered a horrible breakup about 4 months ago. My ex-boyfriend of 6 years cheated on me and left me for the other woman and moved right in with her. OUCH.I am finding it impossible to deal with in such a small town. I am looking over my shoulder every second because I am completely terrified of running into them. I have been trying desperately to get over it, but can't seem to move forward. Has anyone moved towns and quit their job after a breakup? I really want to be back home with my friends and family. I think I would be better off dealing with this with them around. I have no support group where I am now.Is this irrational? Should I quit the job I love and just disappear? Right now, it's the only thing keeping me in this town. I kind of want to just start a completely fresh life, but am hesitant to do it. Has anyone had the feeling of wanting to start completely fresh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): Yes - I moved after a horrible and humiliating divorce. My ex had an affair in the office - so it was so humiliating - everyone knew. The move gave me an adventure - I prayed on it and felt that God answered my prayers and let me know that the move was the right thing to do. I had small children - so I threw myself into finding activities and things for them in our new town, the move allowed me to actually be promoted - the company paid for the move which was unheard of, sold our house in one day... made a nice profit -it was just meant to be. I prayed very carefully on it and had not one regret. I am currently about to move again - and God again is making things happen that sound unbelievable - with finding a job in this economy in my desired field - unreal when you let go and let God!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (27 January 2011):
 Its perfectly normal to feel this way. Heck, I feel that way sometimes and I have a great job + great boyfriend! I moved to where I am now for the job, and subsequently met my boyfriend a few months later, but my friends and family are all back up north and I would LOVE to move back up there but there are no jobs so that is the main reason why I stay here. Obviously having my boyfriend down here helps, but friends and family are a huge deal and I miss them very much.
I think if you want to go back home then now is the perfect opportunity to do so. There are plenty of jobs that you will find you enjoy, but you only have 1 family and a small number of friends you can say you are really close to. So I think staying somewhere where you are unhappy for the sake of a job is not worth it, whereas giving up a job but getting your friends and family back is definitely worth it.
What is the job situation like back at home? Are you confident there are good enough jobs for you back there that you will enjoy? I think if you are confident that there will be a few options for you career wise then go for it - I think starting fresh back with your support network around you will be the best thing for you.
After I broke up with my last ex (it was a nightmare relationship) I moved over 100 miles away to a new city, where I only knew 1 person. I needed the fresh start as the old city I lived in had lots of bad memories so it was good to get away from it all. As I have mentioned I am still a long way away from my family and friends and that is hard, and I would love to move back home if the opportunity came up, but at the moment I am happy and I have a much better life following my 'fresh start' compared to my life before.
Unless getting a job would be hard back at home, then I cant see any reason why you should not move back, it sounds like the perfect time in your life for you to do so and if I were you, I would jump at the chance.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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