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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months now, but I have known him since we were in Junior High. We were high school sweethearts that just barely realized it. We started having sex about 1 week into the relationship but only because we have already known each other for so long. He is what I would call inexperienced. I was only the 3rd person and the 3rd time he had ever had sex. I was talking to him about likes and dislikes. He proceeded to tell me that he had never gotten a blow job, but that he would never go down on a girl. When quesioned about it, he responded with, I am showing respect by not going into that region. I have told him on several occasions that I would like him to because I enjoy it. He says that he isn't afraid of the taste or the smell. So I don't understand why he won't! I just recently gave him his first blow job hoping that he would want to return the favor. But no luck! I don't know if this will take time because he is less experienced than I am or if this a definately, not going to happen. I need help, is there tips that I can try or should I just give up and accept the fact that this isn't going to happen?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 October 2008):
 Both "aunty_rach" and "Cass 28" nailed this one. As I've been recommending for almost a year on DearCupid.ORG, orally-given pleasures should be mutually enjoyed. For some reason that I cannot understand, many if not most guys just don't get it. As Cass suggested, they are possibly "just being lazy" or in my opinion, they are selfish and way to bloated with self-importance. In my opinion, that is one reason for both the high divorce rate and infidelity in most places, and possibly a cause for great general disappointment in life among a majority of women. (According to various studies in Europe and North America).
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (14 October 2008):
that answer is spot on. i think us girls learn that if we give then don't recieve, then we don't give at all. with a bit of age i have realised that we should never give before we get, always get before u give. lol. after all now that he has had a blow job he will want more. but don't pressure him too much, make it fun. if he is not sure on the taste,smell, use body chocolate or cream. something to make it less dawnting for him and very fun for u. i don't understand why guys think we will just give and be happy with not recieving! if there are guys reading this, understand that we only give to get!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): ok my advice here has worked for me in the past so go easy other posters. I was with a guy for a while who I had continually given oral sex to and had never gotten anything in return. I had told him I enjoy it and funnily enough he also stated that he did not go 'down there' out of respect for me.
All I did was return the favour and treat his penis with the same 'respect'. It was sooooo funny, he would ask for a blow job or tru=y and gently coax my head down in that direction but id say, sorry honey but i think ill gie you the same level of respect your giving me. It just dosent feel morally right for me to go down on you when you find it disrespectful to go down on me, so im following your example.
Now it took about 8 days I think and he was down there like the disrespectful man id been looking for.
Try it babe for your own amusement trust me its worth it. Guys that 'respect'you that much are really just being lazy.
Cass 28
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