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51-59,
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writes:I was in a relationship for 2 and half years with a man I love deeply he was always running away for weeks at a time and then return to say he wanted me he even called me two days before Christmas 2 years and said he is going to be seeing someone else and about 3 weeks later wanted me back again so I went back he moved in with me and we had a great 3 months together and he moved out and moved back in moved back out wanting to be single again and then I moved in with him he got a ring and asked me to marry him I said yes but the subject never came up. All the time I was with him he always was on dating sites and would visit them so he wanted me to move out and I did but then I would go to his house and spend days there and we had a great time together and I would leave for a couple of weeks and go to his house for days and he treated so good and sex was great I am in my late 59 and he is 57 and was getting tired of him always being confused in what he wanted so I just sat him down and wanted to know where this relationship was going and he said he didn't know that he missed me when I was gone but ready for me to leave in a few days I told him I wasnt getting any younger and I wanted to be with him all the time and he and I wanted to find someone to be with all the time and he said he understood but wouldn't not talk to me anymore about the relationship and got up went to bed and I slept on the couch that night and go up and left the next day and I sent an e-mail to him telling him I love him and I hated him being on those dating sites and I could live with him or without him then I tried to call him and he wouldn;t not answer my call. He is mad for me ending the relationship. Should I have stayed in a confused relationship or did I do the right thing?
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (5 February 2009):
 I think you did the right thing by ending things..it had to have been extremely hurtful for him to be going back and forth...How on earth could he expect you to keep putting up with that sort of treatment? I realize how much you care for him and must miss him terribly, but he wasn't being faithful to you, and was constantly hurting you by running back and forth. That's not the signs of someone who is deeply in love. You were always there for him to come back to, his "back up"...Don't you think you should be first? Give yourself time to heal, and don't feel badly about ending things. He wasn't respectful or caring about your feelings in any way, shape or form. I'm sure in the long run you'll see that you're better off without him. I wish you all the best.
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reader, XxAnGelXxx  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 Even that whole story made my head spin a little, I think though, you definately done the right thing, it certainly wasn't fair how he had been treating you. So I say good on you for ending it, and that you should go and find that person who will treat you like a queen, cos everyone deserves that :)
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