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writes:I'm supposed to be going on a date with this guy this week. He asked for my number on facebook, so that he could call me to talk about the date, so i gave it to him, and he sent a message back saying " hooray ! " ( i think that was because he was glad that i agreed to go on a date with him, and because i gave him my number ), and i also got a message from his friend saying " Hi. ( The guy's name ) can't wait to see you again. I think he's in love ". His friend has also sent me a friend request. I haven't replied to his friend or added him yet. Do you think i should reply to his friend and add him ?. I haven't met his friend before, and have never spoken to him on facebook. And should i tell the guy, who i am going on the date with, what he said ?.Do you think they are both messing around, or do you think he might like me a lot and he has been talking to his friend about me ?. I know it can't really be love, as we have only met once. We have been intouch on facebook for a couple of weeks now though, and he as the one who asked me if i wanted to go out again. He has also sent me links to some videos that he is in. Should i still go on the date with him or not ?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): You can share photos on facebook,which means people can post them on their page.I've just noticed that he has posted my photo on his wall and he wrote a comment underneath saying " smitten ! " . He didnt ask me if he could post it on his wall though. Do you see any harm in him doing that ? It just seems funny since he hardly knows me.
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (16 January 2012):
If you are worried, and still want to go out with him, make sure you meet in a public place, each of you driving seperately to get there.
Bring up his friend only in the context that you feel uncomfortable with strangers contacting you, and don't want to communicate now, you just want to get to know him, not his friend. I would not mention the "in love" part. That could just be his friend's evaluation.
There is probably not anything bad going on here, but you can take precautions and express your boundaries. Any sane person would understand.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (16 January 2012):
 I think you should go on another date with him- especially if things went fine the first time around. And I don't get the impression that the guy you're dating is just messing around. He may genuinely like you, told his friend, and his friend may've decided to contact you with/without the guy you're dating knowledge.
I don't see no harm in replying to the friend by saying "cool", "that's great to hear", "Great! I like him too", or something along those lines. Nor do I view it a problem to accept his friendship request. But that all depends on your comfort level. If you don't want to do accept his request or message him back, you're not obligated to do so.
But give the guy you're dating a chance- and if things work out great. Because if he's in it for the long run, you'll have enough time to get to know him better... and of course his friend(s).
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