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writes:I went on holiday to Jamaica at the beginning of the year to celebrate my birthday. While there I met a guy there. I was not interested in him on holiday at all I thought he was drop dead gorgeous. But I just don't go on looks I go for personality too. Aside from a kiss one day after dinner we have not had sex.I know Jamaican guys get a bad press for using women. But he has never asked me for anything. Just for me to come out there to see him and meet his family in person.Since I have been back he has called and text me everyday it has been 5 months now. I find myself drawn to him. We are able to talk about everything and anything and he makes me laugh so much. It is difficult for me to open up to people but with him I feel like I can be my most vulnerable with him. I've told him things I've never told a soul. I've never felt so emotionally connected to a man like this before. If I have had a stressful day talking it through with him takes the stress away. He is so open minded and non judgemental and has a heart of gold. He is always complimenting me. I have spoken to all of his family and they say he is always talking about me. I think I'm falling for him.Should I go back out there to see him? Can these kind of relationships really work?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 If you guys are in daily contact, I can see no harm at all in going back to see him if you can and he wants to see you and you want it to happen. but be in control of your vacation... do not stay with him. have plans to do things without him just in case....
Can these relationships work out? ONLY if one of you moves to the other or both of you move somewhere new together.
you cannot make an LDR work if you can't be together full time in real life within a couple of years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): I don't see the problem in going back out there. My parents met on holiday, kept an LDR going for 2 years before they got married and they celebrate their 30th wedding anniversary next month. If you do as the others say and keep your wits about you and take a friend of possible, then you don't have anything to lose. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): You only live once, why not go back out there?!
I would recommend staying at a hotel and not meeting family or him anywhere you feel would be too isolated or somewhere that may put you in danger. Maybe inviting them to dinner at your hotel rather than going to their house? A family friend met her partner in Jamaica and he since moved out to the UK. She went over there lots to visit and for them it's worked and had a happy ending.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): No harm in going back out for a holiday! Take a friend though x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): Going back to see him sounds like a good idea, as long as you are prepared emotionally, financially for things not to work out. Take a couple friends if you can, and have fun but don't lose your senses and dive headfirst in such a rocky situation.
Bear in mind that it is always easier to feel emotionally connected to people that you talk to via technology for long periods without seeing them in person, cuz we tend to talk about more personal things at a much faster rate and we romanticize and extrapolate these interactions into other aspects of their personality that we really don't know anything about.
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