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*carleto
writes:Hi,I met a guy through dating website. 3 weeks ago... I'm 40, divorced 5yrs with 2 children, only had 1 other partner for a couple of years which ended earlier this year. 1st 2 dates were fab and very intense. He has 2 ex's with 3 children between them and it is all very acrimonious. He recently had some trouble with his job and has had a lot of stress in the last year or so. He seems a bit distracted and run down and i dont know if i can be his emotional crutch as i need some support too. i'm wondering if he's really ready for a relationship.. i am, which is why i was on the dating site but not sure if he will give me what i need.thanks for reading this,
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reader, loriegirl  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Girl that is nothing!! My man has 5 kids and all from different mothers!!!! Cant beat that!!! (its a long story) anyways, regardless of that, we are very happy. I met him online at singleparentmeet.com We have been together for 7 months now and we both are extremely happy with eachother. We live 4 hours from eachother but manage to see eachother every other weekend, we take turns going back and forth. Yeah theres baby mama drama at times, and we both stress over it, him because he is the person that has to deal with it, me just by seeing that he is going through it. There is no trust issues, we both trust eachother, and are very understanding. I know It may seem like alot of baggage and it may seem impossible at times, but believe me if the LOVE is really there, there is nothing to bring you guys down. You also mentioned that he has had work problems, well my man too. He has been injured from his job and is not allowed to work, that has been going on for the past 2 years. He is pending surgery. And he is also struggling, He works under the table, but it still isnt enough. He is very stressed over that also. I recommend that you have a serious talk with him and ask him if he is ready for a serious relationship, tell him what you need and if he is willing to give it to you. But you need to do it before your feelings get more involved with him.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (13 October 2007):
 hi i think that you may be making a mistake to continue at this time with this relationship, you have said your self that you are in need of emotional support,if your partner is also in need of emotional support what will happen if everything should spiral out of control,it will have a devastating affect on you and your children,maybe you should both see a doctor or councilor and work your problems out, then when you have both sorted your problems out start a relationship,if by then you do not find there is anything between your selfs, you do not have to go through a break up which is hart breaking, good luck
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