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writes:ok so we have a friend of the family and since forever iv always had a crush on him when we meet up id get all exited and not sleep the night before.the problem was he live miles away and so i only ever saw him 2-3 times a year witch was a problem coz it whould always bee a kind of long distance relationshipwe have a lot in common but he is 3 years older than me and is now moved out of home and in collage. obv when i heard this news i was devastated because i knew id prob never see him again (hes that kind of guy)but about 5 mouths ago just before he left for collage he asked me to go camping with him and many others.i said yes without a second thought and when the time came it was amazing we never had very interment convs but i began to know him better and still felt the same way bout him about half way through the weekend he offered me a splif and we had a few drinks and i was so happy and we would be siting together chating a little and id think some thing spacial was gna happen and hed just go to bed.its been half a year since lats saw him and I'm rely begining to miss him i don't know what to do i rely want on one hand to forget him and move on with life iv found some one els at school only 1 year older and i rely like him where rely close and he knows my past with this man but i don't know whether i should ask him out and try to get over this boy at collage or weather i should try to find a way of contacting him (be hard but willing to try)can any one help me iv been going over this for half a year and i rely am beginning to like this other guy but should i let this collage boy go????rely need some help thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): I would go for the guy who is close. You don't really have an opportunity to get to know the other one, and if he is into drugs, it might be fun for awhile, but in the long run, it is very difficult to make a relationship work with someone who is involved in drugs. Drugs make people selfish. He will sacrifice your needs and (in the future) his kids' needs to satisfy his own addictions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): I'm sorry but I have to say that I think a male that offer a girl a splif is very different to a hardcore drug user. I think the college boy is your past, you still think of him like most people think of their first loves and place them on a pedastal.
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (16 November 2008):
 NEVER involve yourself with a man who uses drugs. Nothing ever good comes out of it. They lie, cheat, steal and treat women badly. Perhaps you are afraid of a healthy relationship?
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