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writes: I have been having private violin lessons for just over a year and i really like my tutor.His always impressed by how much i have learnt since the last session (think it helps that i like him, so willing to do more)and has text me once or twice after lessons saying i did well today.He sometimes touches me on my arm (not in a sexual way) but the hold lingers there for longer than necessary sometimes. He takes note of hair cuts and clothes/ shoes im wearing and gives prolonged eye contact where he then stares at my lips. I have caught him looking at me up and down (triangle glance) but pretended not to let on. He will go out of his way also to email me over extra stuff, and stuff like that hours after the lesson, sometimes the next day, which makes me think his thinking about me somehow?? He always asks what i'm doing at the weekend, which i reply either nothing or meeting with a few friends... (i never fabricate anything as that will definitely look like a lie). I ask him too and he always says not much also. He never goes any further with it, and he has never mentioned that he has a g/f. Even asked my plans for valentines day.I once got so annoyed with the whole 'what are you doing this weekend' line, that i said if your free one evening maybe we could go for a drink. In which he replied yeah, that would be good and even suggesting what we could do. I thought great, but nothing ever materialised out of it and i don't feel like i should ask again. He definitely shows off with his playing skills, which is obvious and always remembers minute things i have said previously or something that i really like. He sits very close and sometimes actually gets in my personal space zone (which i don;t mind). There have been times where his touched my hand and its like we both freeze and then just goes back to normal.I just get a vibe that he does like me but feels he cant do anything because it would be unprofessional.Before anyone says... its not a conflict of interest as were both fully grown adults so no under the age of consent problems on that front. And i realise i am paying him for his service, so he may feel he has to be nice to me but i sense something more.From what i have said (which is a snippet really) what do people think?? Should i leave it or start giving more signs away... but how?? Maybe its wishful thinking on my part. Really confused.Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice... taken on board!!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (1 August 2014):
 I think if he was interested in more than being your tutor he would have asked you out already, sorry.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (1 August 2014):
 I think if it's what he wanted it would have happened. Perhaps all the extra emails and stuff show that he wants you to get certain material that will help with the classes and also all the touches and stuff are just that, normal contact. Nothing seems special here. If he would like to go out with you he will. Until then take everything he says and does at face value. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2014): As you say, you're both adults. If he gives you so many signals, why doesn't he do something about it? You even suggested that you go out. Yet he didn't take the opportunity to go with it. I think you're letting your imagination get carried away. You notice far too much flirtatious behavior with no conclusive follow-up from him to show he has any real romantic interest in you.
That is usually an indication that you might be reading too much into everything he does.
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