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writes:Hi,I'm currently having trouble with one of my closest friends. We've been best friends ever since nursery and primary school. However ever since we went to secondary school things changed. On the first day she made a new friend, who is in our form. And now I'm being left out of everthing they do. They have so much in common, they like the same boys, make up and clothes. And I'm just not into that sort of stuff, it's making me feel left out. Whenever they're talking I just remain quiet and never join in with what they're saying. This is really making me depressed and I already have self-esteem issues. I know I shouldn't be so jealous, but the truth is I am. So what should I do? Should I find new friends, because I don't want to break them up or anything? Or should I just move on in life and focus on myself?Thank You. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): Thank you lifeinsonnetform,
That was a very helpful thing to say, I do feel a bit better about my situation. I think I will hang out with my other friends who actually get my awkward geekiness :D.
Again thank you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): I think you should find new friends - not for the sake of not breaking them up though, but for your own. We change so much during our younger years that who we are at 16 can be *completely* different to who we were at 6, or even 10 or 11. I know how hard it is to accept when a good friendship of years has run its course, but it can happen to you at any age. I thought I'd be friends forever with one or two people I knew back at school, but 18 months after leaving we're not even in contact anymore - and at college I've met others with whom I have so much more in common!
Never be afraid to walk away from a situation which is doing you more harm than good, sweetheart; at the moment, you're not at all happy where you are. Do try not to let it affect your confidence though, because you haven't done anything wrong. You're a wonderful person with a lot to give... and now is the time to let new people enjoy your company. So chin up, deep breath and don't forget to smile :) You'll be fine, I promise. Good luck and take care x
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