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writes:I've been with my live-in boyfriend for 5 months. Should I expect that he know my middle name and birthday? Turns out he doesn't ( I know his) and he thinks I'm overreacting to be upset that he does not know these two things. Just looking for some feedback to see if indeed I am overreacting.thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Something like your middle name should be easily remembered I think. A birth date is hard to remember but if he was wise he would have written it down somewhere!
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (21 October 2007):
 i agree with phil here
Tell him once - good for you
Tell him twice - Yell at him
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (21 October 2007):
 dear Anon.I agree with my friends, i also find it hard to remember birthdays, dont know what goes on in my head some time,like Uncle Phil i fore got an old girl friends birthday, after the tongue wagging, and punishments she dealt out,even after ten years i now still remember her birthday.have not seen her in nine years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Yes, you are over reacting. Sweety, I was married almost a quarter of a century (25 years) and my husband never remembered my birthday. (and that is not why my marriage eventually ended..lol) Heck, he never rememebered his own birthday. Why you ask? Because he was extremely forgetful about dates and birthdays, names, other important occasions. Some people are just this way. It doesn't mean they love you any less. Added to the fact, my husband worked so hard providing a good home for his family..he just didn't simply remember, as he had a ton of other pressing things on his mind. Hun, you have to make a decision. If this man is really loving to you, treats you with the highest regard and respect, then why sweat this small stuff. There could be a lot worse things happening in your relationship. If this bothers you so much, why not ask yourself why? Why don't you turn this negative into a positive. Retrain him. When your b'day rolls around, just tell him outright but nicely, "It's my birthday on Sunday, hun and weare going out for dinner-I've made reservations" End of it. I did that many times, and I ended up with a dozen roses and a loving card, say how sorry he was that he forgot. Don't make this issue a petty sore point in your relationship. Just help him to remember, in a positive loving way. If you do this way, he'll get the message.
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reader, Helpmeplease123  +, writes (21 October 2007):
I think you have a right to be angry. maybe not so much about the middle name but definitely in regards to the birthday. He should have asked you about your birthday already and if he has then he should have remembered! Guys dont fing these things as important as girls do but i think you should tell him how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Some people are good at remembering things, and some people aren't. I am always forgetting people's birthdays - even those closest to me. It really annoys them but I simply can't help it. I remember the month but unless I've been told a thousand times, then I really couldn't tell you the date. So in my humble opinion, you are right to be upset, but don't tell him off too much for it. It's not really a big deal (just remember to remind him a month before your birthday each year so he can't forget to get you a present!). X
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): You would be overreacting if he's not been told what your middle name or birthdate are.
If he's been told, he ought to remember.
I've found that the best way to remember a womans' birthday is to forget it once.
Phil
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