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30-35,
anonymous
writes:should i divorce my husband?he always shouts at me, never wanting to spend time or talk to me and he puts everything else before the relationship.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 You're 18-21, how long have you been married?
Have you talked to him?
Have you considered marriage counselling?
Can you give us some more details?
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reader, EBM2008  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Divorce should be considered if you have already tried to work through this an it has not worked. I'm assuming you have already talked to your husband about how awful his behavior makes you feel and how much you want for it to work. If you have tried to save your marriage, and nothing seems to work, (even therapy) then yes, a divorce would be the next step. Think about it and try to work things out first, though.
I wish you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Going by your age, you might've got married too early. But this is general impression you get from people your age. They realize that they shouldn't have got married, because marriage means commitment to each other for ever.
And people your age want to be free and enjoy the peak of their lives.
You got married for a reason however, and you could try marriage consuelling. You shouldn't be treated like this. You sound like you wanted the commitment, which isn't typical like I said in the first paragraph, so you could give it a go. But if he really doesn't want any of that, you need to stand tall and say this obviously isn't working. Because it doesn't sound like it is.
He'd be stupid to say it was. This isn't marriage. Marriage is meant to be happiness, particularly in the earlier years, which must be you two.
Do you actually love him?! Because if you do getting over him might be hard. But thats a totally different question, and for now I recommend marriage consuelling. The marriage isn't over yet.
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reader, MissRosie +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Divorce should be an absolute last resort when a marriage goes wrong. Have you tried talking to him? How long have you been married? Do you have children together? Are there any factors that could be causing him stress or depression at the moment?
Without knowing much about your situation it would be very difficult to give any sensible advice.
If you let us know some more details abpout your situation then we can give you some proper advice.
Hope to hear from you again soon with a better picture of your situation x
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