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writes:so here's the deal: i've been dating this guy for two weeks, he's great and we've made each other very clear that we like each other a lot and that we would like to be a serious relationship but to take things slow and see what happens. we already had intimacy this weekend (weekend number 2) and he suddenly became not evasive, but not as romantic or attentive as before. he said to me (before this trait began to come out) that he tends to be very proud and that he gets bored very fast when he dates but that he wishes that wouldn't happen with me. so now i'm scared!! I don't know if he was bs me and just wanted to get to third base with a girl (he's a virgin and it's been checked with friends in common with me) or if he's getting bored (and i don't want to loose him) or if he's just like that! and i don't want to be one of those obsesive girls that because they freak out they start calling and texting and drive the guy away, so what should i do? should i continue his game of "evasiveness" or should i break it off with him?
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reader, cca9130 +, writes (5 December 2010):
cca9130 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks! though we didn't have sex, it was just like touching and stuff, but it still counts....still, thanks for the answer! i'll do just that
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (5 December 2010):
 For one thing, having sex with him so soon was a big mistake. You normally should wait at least a month - preferably two - before taking that step.
After two weeks you barely know one another, and cannot possibly have any idea as to how well you'd get on for a long-term relationship. That takes time: a year and more.
Still, its done now. You'd do better to just back off, sit back and see whether he continues to call and wants to see you. It might be that he just wanted to get laid and having done that, isn't so interested.
But maybe not. Get on with your life, and see what happens - but don't hold your breath waiting! In other words, do the things you enjoy and find meaningful in your life.....good luck
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