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Should I continue to be his friend and see what happens? Let him be the man and make a first move?

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Question - (27 January 2011) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Last year, I was trained at my job by this really neat kid, and I totally started crushing on him. He's the brother of the owner of the company, so for the extent of the time I worked there, he would come in and do filing and stuff for me. I eagerly anticipated the help!! :) We always got along pretty well and joked the whole time. I'd look for questions to ask him, and he'd always respond timely and such..

I decided a few months ago to quit that job and go back to finishing my nursing degree. The first day of class, he came down the aisle of my sociology class and was like "So you really did come back to school!" and had a big smile on his face. We visited about his Christmas break in Florida. I was so excited to find out we have a class together! And I've looked forward to every MWF. This kid has had one serious girlfriend and it ended over 3 yrs ago, by her. I get the feeling he was really hurt by the whole thing, but we have always joked about me finding the perfect girl for him..After listing the qualities he would find in the perfect girl (which I was checking my list for), he said that the only thing that would keep him in MT was a girl. His dad's paying for his tuition and told him he had to come to MT. He's from FL. Obviously, he hasn't found her. He has a plane ticket back to FL the day his last class ends this May, and this is his last semester. He'll be done and graduated and has a job lined out when he gets back home. Oh btw, I have most all of the qualities he was looking for. And that's the thing that brings me to my question. I am one of those people who rarely likes someone, and I just really am butterflies about this guy. He is a huge smart alleck and sort of a recluse here in MT,lonely. He's extremely intelligent, ambitious, attractive, hardworking, and I just see in him this desire to open up to someone. It draws me toward him. He acts too school for cool, but I can see past the whole thing. Myself, I have always had the problem of being very friendly to everyone and boys tend to see it as being led on...so many times has it happened that these guys I thought were my friends actually liked me more. Every time... and this one time when I actually want it to be more, it's staying at the friendship level. I feel like he may be a little out of my league. I am also intelligent, friendly, ambitious, kind, and I have been told I'm rather attractive. However, he comes from money, which I do not..

I am hoping that visiting during class and maybe studying for the tests will really show him that I'm a neat gal, because like I said, these butterflies RARELY occur. RARELY. Should I continue to be his friend and see what happens? Let him be the man and make a first move? I always thought that boys make it very apparent when they like a girl..and this is why I've only ever waited. I honestly feel like we are getting this opportunity to be in this random class together to get to know each other, and I know that if he would just open up a little bit that we could have something really great. I honestly believe that. I'm nervous for May to approach, however! If it's meant to be, it will be, right? Or should I mention something to him!?

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