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writes: Everyone has this infatuation phase once they find someone they are really interested in. A couple weeks ago, a friend of mine told me that someone likes me. I knew who he was, and I just thought it cute, because at that time, I did not like anyone. He did not fit my preference at all when it came to guys. Personally, I go for Caucasians who, aren't "gangster" with baggy clothes and such. He's puerto rican/black and slightly "gangster". And I'm wondering, "you do not seem the type of guy who wants to go out with me. goody too-shoes, abiding by the law..etc" So a week goes by, and he gets my s/n from my friend. Turns out I caught his eye because I am cute and different than most girls he's dated. We talk, and I see he's a pretty cool kid. Still wouldn't go out with him though. He wasn't my type. But the same friend convinced me to just go out with him for a day, see how he's like. I did..and after talking to him alone in person, I realize that he's truly sincere. At this point, I'm starting to feel a strong attraction towards him now because of his personality.We exchange phone numbers and we constantly texted each other for the whole week. After the second week..things started to die down a bit. I met up w/ him at his house because we both didn't have school, and we were alone..i got very comfortable w/ him. However, i did not let him touch me down there, or up there, because i was finishing up my period, and plus, its like our first "date". Later that day I gave him a handjob because he won a poker game. I was so nervous because he is the first one I've given one too. No clothes were off during this process. He was patient w/ me and enjoyed it, so, its all good. Anyways, after that incident (which happened this week), we've been quite..distant from each other. Sometimes i wonder if he is still interested in me because we don't text as we use to(am i over analyzing this lack of texting issue, or does it really mean he's probably losing interest as well?). The infatuation phase was fun..but it seems to be dieing. When i kiss him, i don't feel anything, as if i don't genuinely like him anymore. We can kiss for 10 minutes while i'm giving him a HJ, and i could feel nothing in return (unless he touches me). I don't intend on having any serious relationship at this moment in my life (we are both 18 and in high school, he's not a virgin, but i am (i also don't intend on having sex either)). But, I'm not sure if I should continue this kind of...pleasure-only relationship(at least on his end). Could he possibly feel the same way if he's not texting me as he use to?Am I wasting my time with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Im sorry but up untill the giving of the handjob because he won a poker game you had my full attention seriously without any tears rolling down my face and not able to see the screen..Sweetheart read it back and pretend someone else wrote it!!!!! Im not laughing at you but with you love ok belive me please just read back u will see if that had been written by someone other than you how funny it would come across :) Im getting myself back to normal OK!
Right stop with the pleasuring it doesnt matter how much poker he plays he isnt going to be poking you cause your obviously not stupid and have all your marbles when it comes to the sex thing, If your not feeling anything other than his u no what then just move on hun, It really doesnt sound very pleasurable for you at all if when he kisses you you feel nil narda nowt nothing then its time to moooooooove on hun, You a clever girl you no the score just dont text him I BET HE TEXT YOU WHEN HE GETS HORNY!!!!
Your goody two shoes image may have taken a different percpective now love with the h/j n all if you had kept that image up he may have persued you more as maybe this is what he likes the chase anywho you havent lost anything, Just be cool and act as if everything is hunkydorey and see what happens if his kisses dont light your fire sweetheart then its a no go belive me kisses are amazing and you sure no when your on fire with a good one eh! so good luck and please dont think I was laughing at you as Im nice I am I was laughing with you hunny you brightened my day thats a good thing so I hope I helped you a little TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND HUGS MANDY :)XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, miss taylor  +, writes (7 March 2008):
 i think you are probably waisting your time if u don't have feelings for him there is no point in pleasing him i think u have to like the person you are being sexual with otherwise you ae not going to enjoy it like u should. if u carry this on then it will perhaps go further than you thought and probably regret it and thats not how it should be.
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