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writes: hi! i met my boyfriend online for a year now and he promise me that he will visit me but he broke he's promise so many times. i love him so much and as a single mother its nice to know that my boyfriend love my son also. we are in two differents worlds and i do everything for him to be happy even im not happy at all. but the only communication we have is through chat, he told me he dont have mobile no. and now he's in india for his work. what will i do should i continue my relationship with him? how will i know if i should stop. Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (14 December 2005):
 Try not to become too dependant on this relationship, because you haven't met, and you can't be sure of any of the details he's told you.
People who chat and meet romantically online are notorious for telling lies about themselves, even if they start out intending to tell the truth. I don't think this man is telling you the truth.
Maybe this man really does care for you and your son, but if he did, don't you think he'd make more of an effort to see you -- or at least talk to you? A phone isn't that much of a luxury, especially if he has an internet connection, which is the same thing!
I'm sorry, dear, but I have real doubts about this man's sincerity toward you. Many men who chat online are married or in relationships, and claiming that they don't have a phone, or are travelling, etc is a way to avoid you finding out about their wives or girlfriends.
He also may be nothing like he's told you. He may be much older, or much younger, or much less successful... or much more *married* than he's led you to believe.
The best thing to do is for you to withdraw from this online relationship. Your online chatter hasn't attempted to follow through with you and to actually meet in the flesh, so I don't believe that he's sincere. If you're looking for a man to be your partner and a good role-model for your son, you want someone who will actually be there with you, don't you? I'm very sorry, but this man doesn't sound good.
Take care.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (14 December 2005):
 Hi there, I feel that u are taking this guy way too serious. What do u know about this guy for sure. U have to be extra careful for urself and your son well being.You said the only way u guys have communicated is via email how come u dont have a number to reach him? He hasnt even try to see u since and have been promising and failing. U seem like a nice person and i would advise u to take this relationship easy and simple until this guy shows u that he is ready to be serious. Not saying he is bad but saying u shouldnt be into him until u know he if for real.go out on date with other fellows around and have fun. Hope i have been able to help. wishing u all the best
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