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writes:Im in a relationship with a woman who is 28 an im 49,we just found out she is pregnant,the catch shes married an i have been seeing her for over ayear,my question,i want the baby more then anything if its mine,but i dont see much chance of us being together,should i just walk away an let them raise my baby,or should i fight for my rights as the dad? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont think she will leave him for me,even if the baby is mine,i cant compare to him,he makes alot more money then i do an i think thats importain to her.She says she dont love him like she does me an she isnt happy,but still i dont think she will ever leave him.I just wanna be a part of my babys life if she,him is mine.
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reader, xoxladyrellyxox +, writes (23 August 2009):
I understand that you do love her and want the baby to be yours but does she want to leave her husband for you is she ready for if she is then yeah you guys can really be together but if she doesn't or doesn't know she really needs to decide now
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reader, xoxladyrellyxox +, writes (23 August 2009):
Well first you should wait until the baby is born then secertly by that I mean you and her and the baby take a dna to so if it is yours if its not leave it alone but if the baby is yours then try to take legal full coustity say sorry to break up her marrage because you did know she was married
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm not the type of man at all to get her pregnant an bail,i love this woman with all my heart,an i do want this baby to be mine,an there is no third guy,i know this for a fact.I just didnt know what was best for all concerned,an i do wanna be there for my baby an let her or him know im the daddy an be apart of there life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): please tell your married lover you will be expecting a dna to confirm whether this baby is your or not. you are 49 years old, not a 20 something kid. hopefully you are also a man, willing to confront the truth . i hope you are not one of the millions of men getting it on with the married woman, she falls pregnant, you bail and let the hb think that kid is his.
you need to know whether this kid is yours. that means exposing your lover and yourself. well she just has to deal with it, and she needs to tell her hb or you would. you need to be firm or you will lose out on lifes most precious bundles of joy. the woman may not want to do this but the truth needs to come out. you also need to be available during the pregnancy, go for gynae visits, ante natal classes. the joys of fatherhood is such a blessings.
do not let another man raise your kid and let your kid get another mans name. it would mean that you never existed. and this kid may grow up thinking either you abandoned it or that the other man is his/her biological father. your lover will want to keep the parternity a secret but you have rights and you need to enforce it. unfortunaltely your illicit affair would be exposed and all hell will break loose. but you and the lover needs to be accountable. you may be f*cking his wife but he will have the ultimate revenge when he brings up your kid. this is a reality. somewhere along the kids life this womans hb will realise the kid is not his, he will make the kids life miserable and take his revenge. this has happened so many times and it is the innocent kid that faces the abuse. i am not over dramatising, it has happened and then it will be too late. so right from the start establish paternity and step up as a man and father. as for your married lover she has some answering to do. she cannot bluff her way out, this child is proof of her marital betrayal and you both have to face it. your actions have consequences. like the other reader said , maybe there is a 3rd guy that knocked her up. then both you and her husband can sigh with relief. if it is yours. you owe this child emotionally and financially.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): Wow, you're quite a guy... screwing a married woman, she gets knocked up and then what? Welfare steps in? The husband gets to think it's his... you disapear?
What's the relationship say? If your in a relationship, there has to be an understanding... if you're sneaking around then that's not much of a relationship...
I say tell the husband you want a DNA test... maybe it's neither of yours and the 3rd guy needs to step up and be a man...
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