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writes:I feel lately , I am a stuck in the mud or am not having fun like I should be. I here of a lot of relationships where people are cheating or have cheated in the past and it kind of feels although it’s kind of accepted to happen at my age and people just say ‘ oh it happens’ don’t get me wrong I know some out there are decent , but I hear more negative rather than good.Now I am actually looking for a girl I like as opposed to just sleeping around, but sometimes it feels as if I shouldn’t be doing that and having fun. Now I work in an office job where you get a few ladies that like to have a flirt , and are in relationships now I know it can be in now harm and doesn’t mean much.Now there’s this one girl who has said she wants to meet up and I have declined , but there was another girl I worked close with and actually started to like , but because she had bf so I never done anything, now she would lightly flirt now and then and say some other things , like if she was drunk she would go with me , and also I shouldn’t be a gentleman all the time.Now I know she was lightly flirting , and it was prob just for laughs , but is it natural for a lad to try it on with a girl who has a bf and expect an outcome? you hear how people have met other people while in relationships .I don’t know I feel as if my own silly morals just don’t help me with how things are today and maybe I shouldnt be as prudish so to speakThanks if any advise
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answer , I was beginning to think its the done thing and is expected for lads to try it on with girls be that them having a bf or not. But I wouldn't feel great knowing they hooked up while in a relationship.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 July 2014):
 Uh no, you can't use the justification that many people is cheating and therefore it's okay to help someone cheat. In the case with your coworker who has a boyfriend, you need to be prudish. You are trying to find reasons why this is okay, and I see nothing that sounds good. If you don't want your future girlfriend to flirt like that with another guy, then you shouldn't encourage other people to do that.
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