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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes: My Girlfriend of 1yr is a cute and attractive Asian woman and is in a field of work that is 95% Male dominated. She is in business for her self and meets male clients/business owners on a regular bases. Most of the time she meets during day time hours but occasionally meets some of them for dinner. One client who she became friends with she went to dinner and a movie one night and did'nt respond to my phone calls or texting. I confronted her about it when she got home and she assured me that nothing was going on and was just a friend. I was upset and not knowing were this relationship is going but accepted her excuse and we went on with our relationship. She still meets male clients and most of time when she is working she does not answer my phone calls or texting untill she is out of their office or on her way home. I have to trust that she is telling me the truth and have questioned her about some of her clients from time to time but she always reassures me that if she was having another relationship with another man that she would not be able to hide it. She says that she only tells the truth and cannot lie to me as it is not in her nature to lie. I have accepted this but from time to time still have a feeling that she may be fishing for a weathly charming man who could take care of all of her needs better than I can. Am I wrong for having these feelings ? I spoke to an old friend of mine on the phone and she thinks that somthing is missing in my relationship. I really do Love my girlfriend and want to Marry her one day! Need advice !
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Meeting male clients for a business dinner is one thing. It happens, and in a sales or representative-oriented environment, it happens. However, there are boundaries. Dinner and a movie is a date, not a business arrangement.
It sounds like she is trying to use her sex appeal to her advantage. Sounds like she is trying to walk a tight line to use sexuality to get what she wants. It is disloyal to a monogamous relationship to use sexuality in such a way.
How would she feel if you went out to dinner and a movie with a co-worker at night and cut off contact with her? Bottom line, she should remain single and unattached if she wants to use the element of sex appeal to get ahead in business.
And I'm thinking optimistically here. It's quite possible that she's lying to you and carrying on an affair! Either way, dinner and a movie with another man is utterly absurd and crosses the line. How can business be talked about in a movie theater with all the lights off?
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