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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I've had a friend for about 10 months. We see each other occasionally at events, but we live 300 miles apart. (We're older than 40.)I like him very much as a friend, but he has a best friend I met at the same time whom I am slowly building a relationship with. I'm not sure it will go beyond friendship but we do care about each other.First guy and I have been Facebook Friends since we met. We interacted quite a bit on line and exchanged several emails, non of the romantic type. The last couple of months, he has not responded to posts or messages I've sent him, and there have not been a ton of them. He runs a discussion board and I belong. He doesn't discuss with me anymore.Yet! When I saw him a couple of weeks ago, he put his arm around my waist and spun me to face him. He stopped talking and looked at me in a funny way and then walked off.When he first saw me, I was sitting in an auditorium and a session was beginning. He came up the aisle, stopped beside me (I sit in aisle seats.), got on one knee, touched my thigh and almost gushed I was there. He treated me well throughout the long weekend.I don't know what is going on. Part of me says just ask him if I offended him. Part of me thinks this might not be the right move. So, what could be going on and do I just ask him?
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (25 April 2016):
 That's very philosophical of you. I would just push it to one side for now. If he is interested he will make it known. Do you prefer him to the guy you are getting to know? Why are you conflicted?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thank you for acknowledging that it is weird. I'm concerned about asking him what's up because he is the best friend of the man I'm getting to know.
I guess everything will be known in its own time.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (23 April 2016):
Yes ask him. It all sounds strange to me. Also the fact that you are so far apart doesn't bode well for anything developing. It's a long commute.
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