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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone!Last month I met this girl in a restaurant in which we were both working (at that time) and we had a great time, she said she'd never had this much fun in her life. So, a few weeks ago, we exchanged phone numbers and expressed how we really feel about each other, something more than just friendship... and so she sent me text messages every night for the past two weeks saying how much she missed me and I also told her lovely things I missed about her and how I wanted to be with her.This week she didn't answer my messages so I asked her if she was mad at me for someone reason, but she denied that. Anyway it's not that I am desperate to hear from her every day, but it's just the fact that we sent so many messages back and forth for the past two weeks, that I was just kinda used to it and her not returning my messages for the past 4 days (except for the one where she states that's she's definitely not mad at me), confused me a bit and I don't really know what to do: perhaps she feels the need to have some space for a while or maybe she's worrying about something and doesn't want to bother me with it?Should I apologise to her for worrying too much about her not returning my messages, or should I just wait until she sends me a message? I know that option number two is wiser because if she really meant what she said the past few weeks - and I believe she did - then she should feel the need to hear from me too at some point right? But on the other hand still being at the foundation of a possible relationship, makes me not want to lose contact with her..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): call her and know what she thinks...you can meet her as soon as possible.......if she doesn't want to meet then ...its all over.life goes on
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 Trust me on this one: WAIT!
You don't have to apologize for being interested in her. This was the reason why you were exchanging messages and agreed to be more than friends. Why is it wrong now?
Since she had the time to tell you she is not mad at you, well, she has the time to text you. She hasn't done it because she doesn't want to.
Perhaps you've written too much and she's feeling smothered? Or, maybe she is not interested anymore? Whatever the case, WAIT. Let her come to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): Why don't you grow a set & call her instead of texting her? Some people find texting annoying especially if you never actually call her. Do not send her any more messages. If nothing else is going on, it may be that she's tired of you not stepping up & asking her out. If you text her again & apologise for worrying too much, you're going to look like a total wuss, take it from a girl's perspective. Just step up & call her & ask what the problem is, then if she's nice ask her out..
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