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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey I just got my first girlfriend im inexperienced compared to her she is a virgin tho, but i keep thinking of her with the other guys why is that? Other girls that i speak to there past doesnt bother me even if they've done worse then mine? is it cause i love her? Why is that i have certain periods where i get this burning feeling in my stomach thinking of her past to be honest she has done more then me but in comparison to some girls her age(20) she hasnt she is still a virgin and she has been with two other guys only for 2 months and 2 wks both cheated on her and she said she had a fling and kissed a few guys at clubs, i wish she never told me! ok i know its only kissing but its just shes done more then me and i feel like crap! i have been her longest and closest relationship im the first guy to finger her! help me please thank you very much people!
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reader, rk06  +, writes (13 April 2007):
 Hey man... its natural.
So she kissed someone before you did... think of how much more intimate you are with her than the others. Actually, the others shouldnt matter. Tell me this, if you could have done stuff with girls would you have? My guess is ya, so its probably not fair to judge her on it.
I wish you the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): Hi you've written about this problem previously haven't you? Think of all this time you are allowing this issue to cut you up inside, it must really be eating away at your relationship, it is a great shame that you are ruining your first relationship.
You, and only you, can solve this by accepting that your feelings come from jealousy and nothing else. As soon as you can accept that you are jealous you will be able to deal with it better. Your girlfriend was cheated on twice - imagine how bad that must feel! She needs your love and commitment, not your insecure and paranoid thoughts. You do need to deal with this or you will loose her for a guy who can accept and love her for who she is, it's as simple as that.
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