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writes:Hello,My friend is having a problem about her fiancee.They both are in college but my friend is graduating in a year and her fiancee is graduating in four. She wants to tell him that she wants to have the wedding after he graduates but he is worried that she might cheat on him since his last girlfriend was...questionable.I tried giving advice to her to the best of my ability but I really need some help in order to help her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): It's not rational for him to want to get married before he graduates just to keep her from cheating. If she's the type of person to cheat, she'll do it, married or not. I'm in no way saying that she will, but this should be brought up to him. Marriage doesn't stop people from cheating. If she's a girl worth marrying, then 4 years from now, they'll still be together.
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reader, leylaness  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 this is a simple one to answer if he is worried she will cheat then there relationship is not ready for marrage.
then need to take it slowly after all just because you put a ring on someones finger does not mean they will not go off and find someone new
good luck
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reader, wornoutmommy +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Whether a person cheats or not is based upon the person, not whether or not the couple is married. Married people cheat just as much as non-married people.
My advice, being that I'm in college... If she has a child, remain unmarried. She can get more grants/scholarships for school. If she does not have children, get married. Being married will remove both your friend and bf from being their parent's dependents and then they can both get more scholarships/grants for school.
Being married doesn't stop cheating, and if the only way he'll believe that she won't cheat is if they get married... well he needs to seek some couple's therapy or individual therapy. This fear will continue well after the two are married, and may become physically or emotionally damaging to one or both involved.
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reader, rouge +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Hey man i'm in collage for crminal justice and if she is afraid of that the only thing she can do is tell him, be honest you know. Thats what i did and my girlfriend agreed.
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