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writes:my girlfriend and i have been together for nearly 2 years. To but a long story short she moved here from the uk, a year after i moved here from the uk. We got together when i was not in the uk and did long distance for a year. Horrible!She has never liked being here, and wants to go back to the uk. I don't and have said no.She is applying for a phd cs she can't find a job, and wanting to move interstate. I'm not too keen, but have said that we can look into it. I would have to support her and 'provide her with an allowance' for it to work.I'm not sure i am too happy with this, but i feel that i need to because if i don't i may lose her.I also feel a bit guilty because one of the reasons i have said i want to stay in australia is because of my job, but i am not enjoying it as much at the moment and am feeling the urge to rejoin the police, which i used to be part of in the uk.I know that if i say i want to rejoin the police, she will say 'well let's go back to the uk and you can join the police, and i can get a job'. As the phd is her compromise to stay here, she would rather a job, which here she doesn't have the experience for.Bit lost. And it's starting to show in our relationship.Please help!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 June 2010):
Realistically, this is going to fall apart. You either give up your dream of living in Australia, or give her up. You have to decide which you want more. Her, or Australia. This won't work otherwise. At some point, she may get her PHD and decide she wants to come back anyway. Her of Australia.
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