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writes:me and my gf are both 16 and we've been talking about sex lately we have protection and whenever she gives me a blowjob and i finger/eat her out it gets so intense... i just wanna go in we love each other very much and i dont wanna hurt her though does it really hurt for girls? does it stay for a long time? she wants me to do her but im afraid it'll hurt her to much any tips/advice so it wont hurt as much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): It didn't hurt me my first time.There was just a slight pressure, then instant euphoria.And it's really sweet that you care so much about her.But it is key to be gentle, evertime you do, at least the first few thrusts. Otherwise, it could stretch the outside of the vagina, which reallyyy hurts afterward. But other than that, do your thing.If you're still unsure, ask her.If it looks like she's in pain, maybe take a break for a little while.:]Good luck, and I hope this helped! - Ashley, 17
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (20 November 2008):
sorry to say this, but it will hurt her even if you are as gentle as you can be.
a posistion which may help is the missionary posistion, but with a slight difference. instead of you laying on top of her, you both should lay on your side facing eachother. one of her legs over yours. doing it like this means that your penis does not go into her as deep, so it may be more comfortable for her. plus it;s very romantic and intense, as you can kiss easily and really look at eachother and feel eachothers bodies while you penetrate her.
if thats not for you, then just take it very slow and if she has had enough just stop.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 Hi there,
My first time hurt a ton. My fella couldn't even get all the way in, and it was a solid month before we ACTUALLY had complete sex. Now, of course, it's great, but then it was intensely painful.
My advice to you is to take things really slow when you're trying to have sex. Make sure she is nice and wet and take your dear, sweet time getting inside of her. Communicate openly and if she shows the slightest indication of pain, back off. As long as you guys are making sure you're having a lot of fun together, even if things don't "work" the way you think they will the first time - you'll still be giggling and making a fun, memorable experience.
I would say that you should just wait to have sex. It's a lot of fun, but it is also a ton of responsibility (which makes it not so much fun). Enjoy exploring each others bodies for a little while more.
GOOD LUCK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): I'm afraid that much as you don't wanna hurt her, it hurts for most girls on their first time. There are things you can do to make it better but there will most likely be a bit of pain for her. The more she relaxes and the more aroused she gets, the less it'll hurt. Going slowly and using lube also helps. And as you do it more over time, and it stretches more, the less it'll hurt each time. If it's gonna be painful, most girls would much rather be with someone they really care about and who cares about them than someone who just fancied some action, so if you love each other that much then you are probably the right guy. She's obviously happy with the idea so I say go for it. Even if it hurts the first time, things can only really get better from there. Practice makes for good sex - and communication is also vital. If you hurt her or she hurts you (yes sometimes if she's tight it can hurt you as well!) then you have to let each other know so you can go slower or whatever.
And well done for being prepared with protection!
Good luck =]
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (20 November 2008):
 I'm 15 and my first time didn't hurt that much, as long as it doesn't kinda get fall out during sex for the first few times it's okay.
It did hurt a few times after the first time getting it in though because it was still a bit too tight for it and stuff but once it was in it was fine.
I suppose it changes with every girl and how much you stretch it when you finger her. If you stretch it quite a bit it won't be as painful but if you use like one finger then it's gonna hurt.
Good luck xx
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