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writes: im 22 been in relationship 1 yr and i think she wants a baby? i told her from start i dont ever want kids and am saving for vasectomy i love her but am i a bad person for not wanting kids? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): you are NOT a bad person. I'm 19 ever since I can remember I never wnated children and I don't think i ever will (i'm too selfish and could never give up my career or life for another person). The time will come when the two of you need to decide on whether the relationship should continue considering these are both big decisions, howver thats a long time time coming considering your age and your decisions and feelings may change but don't feel horrible and i wouldn't break off the relationship just yet either
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (18 December 2006):
 no, although u are still very young to take a decision like this but at the same time knowing what u want in life is not bad at all, i personally applaud u for ur honesty from the start of the relationship. i gez she thought as time goes on u will change ur mind. children comes with a lot of responsibilities and need nurturing as well, so if u ever decide to have one make sure u are emotionally and financially ready. maybe its time for a break bcos u dont seem to want the same thing in life, but if u can work it out and stay together then there will have to be a lot of compromise from both sides, calmly sit down together and discuss this maturely and openly so that this issue doesnt break ur relationship if worth keeping. good luck
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reader, Nella +, writes (18 December 2006):
You are certainly not a bad person for not wanting children, many people don't! I think you are doing the right thing by making it clear to your girlfriend that this simply isn't on the agenda for you. Try to have a frank conversation, not just about the baby issue but also about the future of your relationship generally - if you both want different things from life it may be best to move on and find yourselves relationships with other people. I do think that at 22 you are a little young to be thinking of having the snip though - you may change your mind when you are much older and keeping your options open (and using condoms) is honestly the better choice for you right now...
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