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writes: After 6 years my GF decided to call it quits 3 days ago......Very hard during the holidays. We have talked tons every day since and tonite we got all our cards on the table. She has lost sight of who she is and what she wants. She needs to focus on herself and that we cannot have a relationship. She wants to remain the closest of friends and I know for sure there is no other man. She said she is scared that she doesnt know who she will become. That I might not like this person or this person may not want me. She maintains she still and will forever love me with all her heart and thats why this is so hard to do. As well she has some resentment, anger and mistrust to deal with from some rocky patches in our relationship. I opted out of going to her families house for dinner tonite and tommorow (xmas)Sorry for the long post but How do I proceed? Can this be saved? The love is still there.....just buried under so much other shit.Please helpThanx
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reader, I Waited For The One  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 Wow Sorry For You'r Lost.
she's saying she losed sight of who she is. she want's to be closest of friend's that's good. that mean's there hope but not 100% and that's the problem.
take me been with my girl 15 month's. and we had a miscarriage. tried to soon for another baby (even when we was warned by another couple) and 6 month's later we split. she's saying she need's time to breathe to see life in the single line.
now the problem is she need's time and men and sometime women don't get this progress it's not gonna happen in 3 day's.
it could take's month's - year's (hope not 4 u)
i was alone for xmas. and my ex told me she still loved me and always will do.
i know u may say " but i was with mine 6 year's and u was only with yours 15 months " but it sound's just the same as mine. except mine say's she need's alot of time she's talking year's.
i'm not gonna say move on at all. i say keep trucking as some say and keep your friendship strong. and hope in 3-6 month's time she crawl's or walk's back 2 you and i have faith she will 4 u.
i know your alone but what else can u do?
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