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writes:Hi! I will try to make this as short as possible :-)I am 27 she's 19. We've been dating for about year and a half. I love her very much but... in the last couple of months she had become distant toward me and we have been fighting a lot. A week ago during one of the fights I have insulted her heavily. Couple of days later I apologize to her about what I said earlier and we started too see each other again like we used too. Last night after a date we ended up in my apartment having sex. At first she didn't want too but after some foreplay we did it and then BOOM! Just like that she started too cry! She never did that before! When I asked her why, she said it's because I insulted her earlier and that she is feeling cheap now!I don't understand this. Is she really crying about the fight or because she is/was seeing someone else? I must note that we didn't have sex a whole month before this and we really didn't spend a lot time together during this period of time. I repeat I love her and things are going better now but if she was/is seeing someone else I really don't want too be with her anymore.Any help appreciated!
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reader, SweetindianGirl  +, writes (25 September 2010):
ummmmmmmmmmmw ell absolute honesty, i was in her shoes, she is scared you will leave her! she isnt cheating on you!!! dont be silly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you cnanot accuse her bc then shell think you took her virginity and now are leaving and using HER CHEATING as an excuse to leave! tell hr i know you feel awkward but i love you for you and will NOT leave you.
and commit. you are 27 # 1, COMMIT you shouldnt eeven be with a TEEN to begin with but since you are you should be responsible to make sure you are there for her throughout.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 I can see why you might think she is seeing someone else, still, that assumption is somewhat premature and drastic unless you have more evidence to support such a claim.
Perhaps she feels cheap because you did insult her and she has forgiven you so readily and after only the first date back, you two ended up having sex. Perhaps it was the act itself that made her feel cheap. What you do during sex can weigh heavily on the how a woman feels. Did you make her feel like a treasure or did you just make her feel like she was some type of sleazy release for you?
Try and see it from her perspective. Make up for your insults and treat her well, both in bed and on dates.
I hope that helps.
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