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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for two and a half years now. She will not stop talking to her ex-husband, via text, phone calls, him popping in at my house. I have told her its understandable because they have children that they communicate, but I have seen the texts to him. Ever time there is a fight she goes to him with the issue, and he comforts her and tells her he misses her, and wants to give her the life she deserves. Help, what should I do?
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reader, t-wett +, writes (22 April 2009):
That's f'd up man. You need to tell her exactly how you feel about the situation. Tell her that you are aware of her communication with him during your fights and that that kind of behavior is unacceptable (it's borderline cheating actually). You need to do everything you can to limit her contact with him. If she calls him, ask her what it's about. If it's not about the kids, then WHY IN THE HECK IS SHE TALKING TO HIM? My mother and stepfather went through the same situation and after a while my stepfather realized that he was interacting with his ex-wife more than he needed to and the problems have lessened significantly. If she refuses to change her behavior then you need to give her an ultimatum and tell her if she is going to involve him in your relationship (besides dealing with her kids) then she can just go back to him. Don't be afraid to stand your ground. You don't deserve to be disrespected like that and if she's too stubborn to understand what she is doing then it's best you end it now and stop everlasting drama while you still can. If nothing changes it's not worth the drama...trust me. I witnessed it first hand.
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