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writes:K, so I f***ed up and need some advice on this one.3 weeks ago I met a girl, and we hooked up that night, had great chemistry right away. I liked her pretty much right away, and we've been talking since.Well, the weekend after that I asked her on a date, but she said she couldn't go (I'm not giving the reason, but just know it sounded very unrealistic)... Anyways, I figured that was her way of rejecting me, so I got bummed out, and ended up hooking up with another girl who I'm friends with, and sit by in one of my classes.Since then the girl I hooked up with 2 weeks ago has been calling me whatnot, and constantly trying to set dates... I can't just reject her though, she's my friend. And if I try to explain this to her I know she'll hate me.Well she asked me on a double date Saturday, me and her, her friend and my friend at my buddy's house... Well, I agreed to it thinking the girl I like from 3 weekends back didn't want a relationship with me.Today the girl I like from 3 weekends back asked me on a date Saturday... I really like her and this is probably my only chance to seize the day and try to work towards a relationship with her. So I agreed.Now here's the problem, not only am I now going to have to call off the date with my friend, but I'm taking this girl to the same buddy's house the double date was going to be at (his date/her friend might show up, possibly with her).I know I sound like an inconsiderate schmuck, but I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings here... Any advice? I'm clueless on this one. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): i think that girl 1 only wants you now because she knows that your with someone else, think very carefuly about this situatuion. cancel going out with girl 1 to another day and go out with girl two AS A FRIEND and nothing more. Then when you go out with girl 1 ask why she rejected you then asked you back out again tell her that you arent prepared to be mucked about. If you and her do decide to hit it off, tell girl 2 that straight away that you have a girlfriend but this will only work if you go out with girl 2 before you go out with girl 1, that way when you brake the news to her she wont be mad and cannot accuse you of leading her on because you made it clear you only wanted to be friends. Make sense. Good luck
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reader, missmel34  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Lol Angel.
I agree.....make your mind up. But don't hurt the other girl.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Got a bit confused reading your question.
Let me get this straight:
Girl 1 go out with you, you have fun.
Then you get bummed out by Girl 1 when she rejects you.
Enter Girl 2 and you have fun, who you still seeing.
Meanwhile Girl 1 now is again interested now that you are no longer available. Humm!
So you are thinking dump girl 2 to go out girl with girl 1 Problem there is, what makes you think that Girl 1 will not dump you again? Girl 2 will not forgive you for dumping her and you ending with nobody.
If you go with Girl2, don't feel guilty about girl 1 as when she had the chance, she did not keep you.
Of course, life is not simple!
You must choose the girl you like best for the right reasons, be honest with the one you like less and spare her feelings.
Know that if doesn't work out, you cannot swap again, so it is make your mind up time.
Hope it works out for the best.
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