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male
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51-59,
stevegoldsmith
writes:She is waiting to be with her text man. even though they have never met. No sex just text. She writes in her diary that he is what she allways wanted in a man and feels nothing for me, It reads they will be together one day, she has been playing me along like this for 2 years or more for financial support. she ignores my attention and goes round her friends all the time. I am not sure should I accept this and move on.
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (16 June 2008):
 I'm not sure that I agree with the fact you read her diary. Equally the way she is treating you is not good either, but quite obviously you need to know where you stand with your partner. Does she know you know about her text friend, or do you know only from reading her diary?
Time to sit down and talk to the lady and to tell her how you are feeling, you are acting like a sitting duck, and if you continue to let her play with your feelings in such a way and allow her to get away with it, then bigger fool you. Stand up for yourself and tell her you're not happy with the situation, that maybe she should make the break and go to the person she feels would make her so much happier. If she decides she has been acting unfairly and wants to remain with you, you will have to make it clear that the texting must stop and contact with this third person must cease.
You will need to work on your relationship together and find time to spend with each other, there is no point if things are not going to change. Why stay with someone and waste your time at the expence of your own happiness if it is just a matter of time before she dumps you for someone else, get your self respect back and tell it how it is, don't play second fiddle anymore, change the situation you're in by speaking your mind!
Good luck!
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reader, dude1  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 Don't accept this. With her attention caught by someone else, she doesn't deserve your hospitality.
It sounds, in the feel of things, that she doesn't feel loved by you, that your spark for her has faded or disappeared. Women are different in how they perceive and deal with it, it appears to us to be a game. If she really has an interest in someone else, then she is pretty much made up her mind, along with hanging out with her friends. If your married, get a divorce, if your just shaking up, change the locks on the doors and kick her out. Send her stuff to a corner of the yard with protection from theft and weather, and tell her to pick it up and be gone.
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