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male
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30-35,
*party
writes:hey everyone, this is my 1st question on here and i dont exactly know how to say it, well in order to understand it 1st off, u need to know the basic story. we are incredibly close, she is the only one who knows what i truly am like, ive known her 15 years, ive loved her for 5, told her twice, 4 years apart, and now she is with someone who treats her right, and she says she loves him, has told me that they have spoken about marriage and moving in together, ect. and i sit there wondering what i can do to win her, it may sound odd but, in a way im happy, that she is with someone who at last will treat her how she deserves to be treated, even though il never get the chance to show her that i could of been the one for her. and now for the reason i signed onto this site, what should i do?, should i continue to sit aside and help her like i have done all these years, or try even harder to prove myself to her?signedconfussed sparty Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 January 2009):
I'm really sorry hun, but you've told her how you feel twice and she's rejected you.
She wouldn't be telling you that she is thinking of marrying this guy if she wanted you instead.
It's a bit cruel of her to keep you around to be honest. Generally if a guy likes you as more than a friend then you HAVE to give them some distance so they have a chance to get over you.
Take some time away from her. Go out with other friends and have some fun. Or if it's that bad then go and do some travelling for a while. See what life could be like without her in it. Once you've come round to that idea then you can re-introduce her as a friend into your life.
Good Luck!! xx
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