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writes:I have been in relationship with another. 3 yrs and she gives me her love then freezes up cuz of her past. I have helped. Her through this and now I'm taking the brunt of it. Cuz of her past she cannot commit, even though she is. She loves me dearly but can't commit what should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): hi, ive the same problem as ur gfriend.... it isnt her fault how she is, im single once again even tho i had d greatest guy.. and its a sad way to be... if u love her you should stick by her, she prob needs you x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 May 2010):
"Can't commit" = another guy in her life. Move on. If she loved you, she'd work through it somehow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): If she's still stuck in the past then honestly you're in trouble. Let's get this straight, there's no such thing as 'can't' commit, it's 'won't' commit and she doesn't want to commit to you. Whatever the reason is, it could be what Q suggests, or it could be a myriad of other things but to put it simply for you, she doesn't like you enough to want to commit to you.
Plan B is the most obvious one and the most likely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): Q, do you know I think you could be right!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): What do you mean when you say she can't commit?
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (18 May 2010):
Try to speak with her again.Make her realize that not all guys are the same and not all relationships have to end up bad. And if commitment is what you really want, tell her. You deserve to be happy and get whatever as much as she does from the relationship.
If you are really looking for a commitment and she's not , you should move on then if she doesn't want it.
Hope that helps.
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