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She is not ready to commit to a relationship. We both care for each other... any advice please?

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Question - (24 January 2012) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *exicalLexi writes:

In may last year I met a girl through my friends at a nightclub. Her name was Laura. We hit it off straight away and started texting immediately. After about 2 weeks we started seeing each other. She was so amazing. I had never met a girl like her. It wasn't long until we both had feelings for each other. I saw her so much over the summer. We went away to Brighton, to V festival... I changed and developed so much with her. I felt like I discovered who I really was. I was so emotionally involved. 

The thing is Laura had always said she hated relationships. She'd had a bad one the year before and her ex still gave her grief. I tried hard to accept that we would never get together properly, though the longer it went on the more I fell for her.  I knew her feelings for me were strong  , and one day when we were Lying together, she told me she wanted to be with me. We got together at the start of August and it was the happiest month I have ever had. 

We spoke every day, and the things she said were so touching and special, I've never felt that way before.  She herself told me that when we were together things felt really powerful and she'd never had that before. I fell in love with her bam! She said she could see us together years ahead. That she wanted to go places with me, see things...

But things turned sour when we went back to college. It was harder seeing her, and she started to shrink away from me. Out of the blue she told me she couldn't deal with a relationship, that she wasn't ready, and that she couldn't make things between us perfect. I was devastated. 

3 months have passed since we split.   I still talk to her. I know she still had feelings for me at Christmas. Neither of us has found someone new.  I know how I feel. I'm still completely in love with her. 

Recently we've talked about our relationship, and the good summer we had. All those feelings are still so raw. 

So what do I do? I want to be honest, and tell her how I'm still feeling. But I'm scared it's something she won't want to hear. I guess part of me is hoping she'll still feel the same. But another part is petrified she has moved on. I just can't live like this anymore. And I want to know what to do. Please somebody give me some advice. 

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