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writes: i was out this evening and i met a girl and we had a nice time to getehr and i really liked her. The only problem is i have a girlfriend. And dont get me wrong i would never and have never cheated on her. We have been together for 1 year and 8 months but we always alwyas argue and soon im off to uni and she is staying at home. What do you think i should do. I keep thinkin...about leaving my girlfriend...but we have become so co-dependant i dont know what i woudl do with out her. Kinda like i know i have a paracute and if i jump out of the plane i can float safly but she is my silly part of my brain thats telling me not to jump. Reply to this Question
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (19 August 2006):
 You will know the answer to this one when you go to uni, as the decider will be how much you miss one another after spending a few weeks apart. Also, when you are away from the situation you will see it objectively, and see more clearly how you feel.
Just consider - if you don't really love your girlfriend, then surely something would have developed between you and the girl you just met?
Couples are bound together by a little invisible thread, and that thread can wear thinner by neglect, or become thicker by re-inforcement; or it can be damaged or cut completely by an outside influence...it's your decision as to how you want this to go. Only time will tell whether you are only together because you've gotten used to having one another around, or whether the love has indeed gone. Arguements can be constructive i.e; when something is resolved, through compromise, which is healthy - or destructive, when you are at each other's throats simply because you are spending too much time together and every little problem/mannerism, etc just gets magnified and bugs the hell out of you (both).
Maybe it is a healthy thing for you two for you both to have a little breathing space, and take it from there. Good luck, I hope this helped.
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