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writes:There is a girl at school that I have been friends with for a long time, atleast 7 years. I am really worried about her because She has recently started going out with a guy who is a huge druggy, alcholic and sex addict. I really don't wanr her to follow his example. How do i help her before it's to late? and what do i do if she already started? Please help!
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reader, JavaJade22 +, writes (13 October 2010):
 Yikes, the typical bad boy. I had a similar problem when I was your age. From your passage, I gather she is not into the same things he is? If not, the only thing you can hope for is that her morals stay true and she has enough power to say 'no'. In the end, she's going to make her own mistakes and she'll learn from them.
I suggest sitting down with her and tell her that if shes ever uncomfortable with whats going on between them, to not be afraid to walk away. Make sure she knows it's okay to say 'no'. no matter how she is feeling in the moment, when she looks back on it in a year, she'll feel relieved to know she said 'no'.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 October 2010):
 The more of a bad boy you make him out to be, the more appeal he will have for her. Why else would she be attracted to him? Making him forbidden fruit by telling a parent or authority figure will only serve to turn her against you and make her want him more. Are you catching the theme here? Any interference on your part will backfire.
There is little you can do other than talk to her about why she likes him and is with him. Let her know your concern for her but do not (repeat DO NOT) tell her you think he's bad for her or offer any opinion about their relationship. About the furthest you should go is telling her you're having trouble understanding what she sees in him.
She will appreciate you much more if you let her make her own mistakes. Often, when we're lovestruck, we make very bad decisions. Sometimes the best thing you can do as a friend is be there after to help pick up the pieces and offer a shoulder to cry on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Tell an adult and try to keep her away. He is a VERY BAD influence. Tell his parents to if you can.
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reader, Dawson lover +, writes (13 October 2010):
 i suggest sitting down with your freind and asking her if she likes the way her boyfriend tastes *gag* wen he smokes and stuff and ask her if she wants to end up the same way
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