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She is dating someone else, but asks me for help with everything!

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Question - (10 December 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 10 December 2010)
A male United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

hi,

i have a friend who is a girl. yes I am sweet on her a little,but I was okay with being her friend because she has a guy she is seeing

but here is the thing, the guy is a big shot sort of and is always busy. so she ends up asking me to do stuff for her all the time, like drive her places,help her with computer stuff,do favors.

i dont mind helpin her,but it makes me mad and burning up in side because why am i doing all this stuff and he gets the good stuff, like her love and attention.

i dont want to be a bad friend, but i am so jealous. even if I cant have her and she doesnt want me like that,this is his job. once was the worst,she was traveling out of town and she forgot her laptop so she called me from the airport crying. i said i would fedex it to her.i did it,and went to her apartment(got the super who knows me) to let me in,got it fedexed it, etcetera.she thanked me, but before it got there,she accidetly sent me a text message meant for the guy she is dating, saying"___(his name),icant stop thinkin about you."

My friends tell me to stop but to me i would do this for any friend but it is killing me inside,am i being immature??

thanks alot,

Callum

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A female reader, chita22  +, writes (10 December 2010):

chita22 agony auntIt sounds to me like u do have feelings for her. No girl will ever like u in that way if your the guy w/the shoulder to cry on u need to be a man and say no he obviously does and that's why she likes him a girl wants a man that is achallenge for her to get so if your always there like a puppy trust me she'll never see u there. Take my advice if u have to make up an excuse then do that instead of just saying no she'll get the point then she's gonna start wanting your attention and youl be the big shot in her eyes! Goodluck

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 December 2010):

Honeypie agony auntJust say no :)

If you feel like she is taking advantage of you (and honestly, it seems like she knows how you feel and play "the helpless chick" with you, to get you to do what she needs done.

Maybe you need to take yourself a little break from her? The longer you focus on her, the longer it will take for YOU to find yourself someone special, she is taken, so she isn't the one.

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