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writes:hey , well, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 6 months, and having sex reguarly for about 4. but over the last week or two , she gets moist just before sex, but literally just as i am about to go in, she dries up complelty, in a matter of seconds, she says she realy wants sex, and i belive her, but we have no idea whats goin on?????pleeeease help/give advice...thanks in advance :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 Lucky girl. Have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u !! :D thats kind of what i was thinking but having a woman give me that advice makes it a lot better, ill put that plan in motion as they say haha :D cheers!!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 August 2008):
This must be very frustrating for you both. Now she's probably worried about it, and that little narrative soundtrack that runs in women's heads is probably working on a loop like this. 'Oh I hope I don't dry up again. I don't want to disappoint him again. Oh dear I'm worried.' This is repeated in her head over and over again while you're making love and will completely kill the mood for her.
A couple of suggestions--beyond using lube, which is an obvious answer. First, make sure she has an orgasm first. If she's had an orgasm, she'll be as wet as she could ever be and will be very relaxed and will want to give you as much pleasure as you've just given her.
Another suggestion is to take the pressure of having intercourse off the table for the next few sessions together. You can pleasure each other using hands and mouths and all kinds of body parts. Then she won't be worried about staying wet or getting dry, she can relax and enjoy all the sensations. What you're trying to do here is to temporarily pause that narrative track I mentioned earlier. Wipe her mind clean of everything else but what lovely, delicious things you are doing to each other. Remove sexual intercourse as the end goal, you see, and this will relieve that pressure you and she are putting on her to 'stay wet! stay wet! stay aroused! don't let him down!' That's a real mood killer, when sex becomes a task rather than a joy.
If she's drying up, she's really not in the moment and fully aroused. So it's up to the both of you to turn her on so much that she literally can't think about anything else but your hands here and your mouth there and your body against hers... and oooh.
Is it just me or is it hot in here?
Good luck.
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