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writes:have recently split with girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. we moved to new country together where she started a new stressful job. we had recently had a conversation about how we were not satisfied, and decided to take a break to think - we always got along brilliantly and had fun around each other, but sex dwindled and we both felt more like friends than partners. within days she slept with apparent friend at work, and when we talked decided that it was best to leave it there.1 week later she has got in touch saying that she thinks she has made the worst mistake of her life, but i feel as if it was more than just sex as she saw him again afterwards once or twice - dont know if anything happened. our life had lacked excitement and things were difficult settling in somewhere new. she now says she wants to give us a chance. am still madly in love with her, but cant trust her anymore and doubt her commitment to us.any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): tell her youll think about it but in your own mind you have to go sleep with sombody just to level the scores.....youll soon see how badly she wants you back from her reaction.....its not even somthing you have to do, women think there great at psycological warfare so turn the tables on her and see how she likes it.
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reader, cristin343  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 You both had acknowledged there were problems. There is a reason other than her leaving the relationship that both of you were not happy. What were these reasons? do you think they will go away if you get back together? probably not.On top of this, you might find yourself paraniod or jealous because she was intimate with someone else.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (1 December 2007):
 If you can't trust her, the relationship is over.
I'm not saying that these things are not overcome. With a lot of effort and commitment, some relationships actually come out stronger, because the infidelity was a symptom of the real problem, not the actual problem.
Only you and she can determine the answers to those questions.
In the end, though ... if you cannot trust her and you doubt her commitment to the two of you, all the love in the world can't save that.
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Don't go back to her. The trust is gone. If she really loved you she wouldn't have touch another man even though you were on a break!
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