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writes:So, me and my girlfriend have been together for about 11 months, including at college for about 5 months and practically living together. Now, its summer and we live in separate states far apart. We visited a few times, including her being here last month for a week, for my bday. A few weeks ago, things were different she was acting a bit differently and saying she wanted to maybe take a break. After a few days, I knew something was up and she finally admitted she cheated on me the week before. She said she thinks mainly because she misses me and missed the attention and contact and she promised it was a one time thing. I was heartbroken..and at first she said she wanted to work everything out..etc..now she and i, more her, decided to take a break, but still speak. We both have flaws, mine include being a little controlling asking where shes going, with whom, etc..will girls be there as well and our communication began to lack a bit before this whole incident.Some part of me feels this break isn't right because i don't feel we are truly working on fixing the issue at hand, she says i love you to death, but Im having the hardest time without you. She is also my first real girlfriend and shes not getting back to this area for about 4-5 months, but we were planning on visiting, i guess not anymore. I feel really betrayed and i feel like this break gives her free rein to do what she wants to basically wait until she gets back here so we can maybe pick our relationship up.In the meantime, I am going to go out and enjoy myself, or at least try to.
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reader, westcoast333 +, writes (25 August 2008):
westcoast333 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah it does sound fishy..i guess im really scared to just let go because i care about her so much. I never have felt so wanted before when i was with her, when we were together everything was amazing, but separately i guess she struggles. She says i make her feel guilty about going out, which i kind of understand, but she still did anyway and i guess my worst fear happened..so now im just lost. She says she cares about me and loves me, and that she had no feelings for this person at all, which i do believe. But, I just don't feel as important as i once did, maybe bc the break. She texts me ill talk to you later when she goes out..and goodnight when she gets home...whats that? I don't think its right at all..not to say she is doing anything wrong, but i feel like im that guy thats just on the sideline.
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reader, westcoast333 +, writes (25 August 2008):
westcoast333 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah it does sound fishy..i guess im really scared to just let go because i care about her so much. I never have felt so wanted before when i was with her, when we were together everything was amazing, but separately i guess she struggles. She says i make her feel guilty about going out, which i kind of understand, but she still did anyway and i guess my worst fear happened..so now im just lost. She says she cares about me and loves me, and that she had no feelings for this person at all, which i do believe. But, I just don't feel as important as i once did, maybe bc the break. She texts me ill talk to you later when she goes out..and goodnight when she gets home...whats that? I don't think its right at all..not to say she is doing anything wrong, but i feel like im that guy thats just on the sideline.
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reader, Curiousbynature +, writes (25 August 2008):
If she wants a break she just needs a break. Maybe she is sick of worrying about what you are thinking of her, and she just wants that feeling gone for a while. I think alot of couples that are long distance take a break every now and then. If youre still talking on the phone I would not worry too much. I am long distance as well, when I miss my bf, I call him or text him, I dont go out with someone else. thats an excuse. If she really missed you, she would never be with any other guy.... But maybe she is that girl that just needs the attention of a guy, and therefore you are not there and cannot provide that for her so she gets it from another guy. It sounds a little fishy to me...
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reader, westcoast333 +, writes (25 August 2008):
westcoast333 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsometimes i feel like maybe i can give her some lee-way because she is a little younger than me..shes almost 19..we are 3 years apart, but im just unsure.
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