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Shall I just let him go without saying goodbye?

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Question - (10 December 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 16 June 2009)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

Hello Guys, need really need some help... my mind is going mental. It's a bit of a long story but hold tight...

I was with my ex boyfriend for abbout 3 years, and we spilt up about a year and a half ago on his terms. In the last year we have kept in contact, remained friends and he has had a couple of girlfriends which i learnt to deal with, and not interferred! He still said he loved me though all this time (which was confusing) but i know the reason we werent together was becuase my family know disliked him for the was he had treated me previously. Anyway i know i had to get on with my life like he was doing, he had girlfrinds and didnt really care if it upset me or not. I met a guy about two months ago, who is really sweet and talks to me like im the most special person in the world. We are not together yet, and havnt slept together or anything but we spend time together. My ex found out from a mutual friend and has gone absoluly beserk, txting me abuse and saying he never wants to see me again and i have changed and not the same person...i dont understand how he can do what he wants, but its like i cant. He moves abroad to work in a bar in a few days but says he doesnt want to see me before hand and my friendship means nothing to him. I am not in his life according to him, and i dont know how he can suddenly change after getting on so well. Its like he is trying to make me feel guilty for something. I dont know what to do. Shall I just let him go without saying goodbye (I was meant to be taking him to the airport, and it will kill me not saying bye). Any advice will be great, thank you :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009):

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Hey guys...just though id give you an update and let you know i have now been with the new guy now for 6 months and havnt spoken/seen/thought of my ex in 6 months :) Just wanted to say thank you :)i have never been so happy...xxxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008):

Let him go. He's a self-centered person with no care for your well-being. He's only interested in how your possible new relationship affects him, and he feels he's losing you to this other guy. But if he really cares about you he'll be happy that you found someone else. He's trying to manipulate you with his cruel words and the idea of not seeing him again. Life has too many problems as is without someone that "loves" you treating you like this. Leave this one completely behind and try to make things work with the new guy, he sounds sweet.

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A male reader, Ed1337 United Kingdom +, writes (10 December 2008):

Ed1337 agony auntHe sounds like a right arsehole, let him go and grow up. Its ok for him to see other people, but when you start dating again its wrong? you really need to get him out of your life, otherwise he could end up ruining it for you.

He is your ex for a reason, get on with your life and stop living in the past.

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