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writes:I feel really ashamed. I have never sex texted a guy or had phone sex. My ex of two months was more interested in that than seeing me as he worked shifts. We broke up 3 months ago because he wanted a no strings thing. I met a very sweet guy soon after. I have been seeing him for two months. Last night my ex text me late and we ended up talking and having even having dirty talk. I hung up soon afterwards feeling empty and ashamed. The next morning my ex contacted me again and I told him I was disgusted with myself. I never want contact again and told him this. Should I tell my new boyfriend. I am so ashamed.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (30 May 2014):
 I think you need to figure out WHY exactly you went ahead with the sexting. (I don't know is not a valid excuse and it won't help your current BF situation either).
And no a bad break up is not a good excuse either, it would make a lot more sense if you had blocked him after the break up instead of sexting him - if you get my meaning.
Think long and hard about this before you confess.
My guess is that you new BF is your rebound, and perhaps you don't feel so secure with him yet? or if you really want to be with him?
It's still pretty early in this new relationship and THAT can be another reason.
Think on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2014): I am OP. Yes Honeypie I agree. I have never in my life cheated or done anything like this before. I will come clean as honesty is the best policy. I cannot imagine how I would feel if he did this to me. I went through a messy break up last year so maybe I am just not thinking straight or something. No excuse.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 May 2014):
What I think you should do is BLOCK your ex's number. You can count on him to NOT call/text you again.
And maybe you need to consider WHY you "played" along with the ex. You could at ANY point in time the conversation turned sexual have ended it.
Should you tell your new beau? I think in a way you should. No matter how ashamed you felt AFTERWARDS your new BF didn't cross your mind? You didn't for one minute think this isn't right?
How would you feel if your new BF was sexting an ex for shits and grins?
Personally I don't think sexting is "harmless".
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