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30-35,
*ilmiissjem
writes:My Bf always gets too excited during foreplay that the sex is over within minutes and tips on how i pospone his excitement so we can 'go' for longer?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 At your age, you are unlikely to encounter many (if any) males near your maturity level who will provide quality and prolonged sexual activity. One possibility is to go ahead and let your lover climax right away, then if he is willing and able, a followup session about an hour or so later may satisfy your needs. If really fortunate, you may have or find a lover who really knows how to give female oral satisfaction prior to him enjoying his own pleasures.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (15 July 2008):
 You can do very little here because you can't control your boyfriend's body.
But what you could do is to do less stuff in foreplay and to get on the action earlier than other times.
And what your boyfriend could do is to masturbate more. It sounds silly, I know, but supposedly masturbation helps the guy last longer in bed due to the "practice". Also, you could suggest your boyfriend to go slower when you're doing it and this probably will make him last longer.
I hope this helps!
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reader, saltwater +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Take things slowly!
Don't rush foreplay or he is bound too get excited and climax too quickly. Though actual sex is probably the cause for the sex being over quickly and not the foreplay.
With sex, I don't if he does but encourage him to wear condoms that contain Benzocaine inside (Durex Performa) that will help him control his climax...so hopefully he will last longer!
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reader, mulattoman +, writes (15 July 2008):
 He might be one of many unfortunate men who suffer from premature ejaculation. There are plenty of articles on AskMen.com about controlling that (Kegel exercises – strengthening his PM muscle).
Another possibility is that the foreplay lasts too long or you are focusing too much on the head of his penis and providing too much stimulation. Foreplay should be a tease nothing more. It’s just a way to heighten the sexual arousal in both of you.
The last thing I can think of is that he isn't controlling his breathing – and that plays a big role in controlling one's orgasm. Maybe he is thinking too hard about NOT cumming because you could be intimidating him in some way (perhaps you said something to offend him). Also, thinking about cumming will only make him reach orgasm even sooner. So tell him to think about something else and to focus more on pleasing you.
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